I've been thinking about boundaries lately. They are a bit of a buzzword at the moment. I think they are popular because they make us feel safe, give us rules to follow and create an illusion of control.Here's the thing though, I don't think they are one and done things but rather nuanced, evolving and …
You are NOT broken.
What if I told you you are not broken? How would you feel? Hopeful? Doubtful? Freer? There are two common ways to view people. As broken problems that need fixing or as whole, complete beings that simply need growing and maturing. Like all things in nature. I think that (in my society and culture at …
When hurt people hurt people.
When I saw the news reports of Jon Biden's recent inauguration, and watched Michelle Obama descend the steps in her amazing maroon coloured suit I was reminded of her words "when they go low, we go high". She endured a frustrating four years of watching on in disappointment with patience, integrity and virtue. And it …
3 Ways to Self-validate and heal
I'm going to start by saying straight off: Self-validation is important. It is not selfish or egotistical. In fact, it is part of giving ourselves permission to be who we are made to be. To celebrate our wins. To build our confidence. To embrace who we are. Just to be clear, self-validation doesn't mean that …
When gratitude is not enough.
Having an attitude of gratitude is important. We've heard this countless times now. Research into gratitude has shown that it improves our relationships, our happiness, our empathy and even our health. It's benefits are plentiful and certainly worthwhile. There certainly is value in it and I often recommend the practice to others as well as …
How to define your core values
Originally posted in September 2020 The other day, or rather night because of time differences with the USA, I was interviewed on a podcast about our emotions, managing them, responding to them and how they influence us. I talked about how often our emotions are showing us that something is out of alignment with our core values …
The 5 W’s of Life – Journal Prompt
Photo by Karolina Grabowska on Pexels.com Here's a simple list of the 5 most important W's in your life. I don't know who wrote them originally but they have become a popular tool for replacing discouragement with motivation. I hope they may be beneficial to you or someone you know. You could even use them …